in your sexuality
Are you basically happy and content in your intimate relationship(s) and / or personal sexuality? Or, do you have stressful interactions, unfulfilled ambitions and goals, or worries that prevent you from making your relating and your sex life more satisfying, less stressful, more complete or more communicative?
This coaching area brings together my earlier master's counselling and psychotherapy training and experience, and my specialisation in stress, anxiety and other areas of coaching for emotional and behavioural changes and self-development. You won't be surprised, therefore, that my coaching on relationships and sexuality focuses largely on self-development and goal achievement in areas of your relating and sexuality that are currently stressful and anxious for you, or potentially so. Over many years, evidence-based psychological and medical research has consistently shown that being content, relaxed and fulfilled with your sexual life / sexually loving relationships, and who you are as a sexual being, keeps your stress levels lower and leads to a mentally and physically healthier life. My aim is to work with you on your relating and sexuality goals to help you reach this point of self-fulfilment.
So, based on this, I approach relationship and sexuality coaching as a journey that's all about you increasing your enjoyment and satisfaction in who you are and how you relate intimately and sexually. My work with you focuses on guiding, supporting and encouraging you in improving what you feel needs to be improved, in order to increase your pleasure, self-confidence, self-esteem and fulfilment in your relating and sexuality. This also includes answering any worrying questions about your relating and sexuality that may be holding you back in developing or expressing your sexual intimacy or communicating your needs or feelings. And if you're not happy about who you are sexually, then we can also work together on self-development through improving your self-image and confidence in a way that properly validates the person that you are. If there are deeper underlying issues that need to be explored, or that you wish to explore and understand, then I will recommend you into counselling with a registered psychological professional. This is because coaching is not suitable for deep psychological exploration, and so you need to work through these areas, gently and thoroughly, in a therapeutically appropriate setting.
I'm pleased to offer you relationship and sexuality coaching that supports, guides and encourages your development in sexual and intimate relationship self-knowledge and understanding. These areas include, communication, intimacy, self-expression, greater sexual knowledge and many other relational dynamics that you might wish to improve in your loving relating and your sexuality, thereby increasing relationship satisfaction and decreasing your stress levels.
I am also well qualified to answer worrying questions about sex and relating, or discuss coaching, or counselling / psychological therapy, ways to move forward from areas in your sexual and relating life that are causing you to feel stuck or trapped in worry and anxiety. In my work I’m happy to coach adult individuals, relationship couples, or small polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous groups across all areas of relationship and sexuality coaching. You will find my approach caring, warm and professional, highly confidential and respectful, motivational, supportive, positive and relaxingly informal.
Who do I work with as clients? Well, since 2000, my clients have represented a wide range of nationalities, linguistic groups, ethnic groups, and socio-economic groups. I've worked in-person with clients living just a few houses away, ranging to clients as far afield as Vietnam (by phone and internet). I'm very comfortable working with people from all lifestyles, sexualities and orientations, whether traditional monogamous marriage or heterosexual partnering, LGBT, non-monogamous / polyamorous, demisexual, asexual, whatever. In fact, I'm completely friendly and welcoming to, supportive of, and knowledgeable about all gender combinations, sexualities and lifestyles involving adult, mutually consensual, informed sexuality and relating. All are very natural and normal examples of the wide range of human life experience.
For your own protection, please be aware, that coaching never involves any form of sexual flirting or intimate sexual touch of any kind between coach and client. No coach (or counsellor / therapist) should ever ask you to allow or give sexual contact with or to them. Sexual touch, or any unwanted contact, in our context is always considered abusive and totally unethical.
I am able, and very pleased, to coach you in any one, or combination, of the following areas of relating and sexuality:
*Understanding and self-validating your sexuality and relationship needs
*Managing stress between partners
*Negotiating your relationship boundaries or sexual boundaries
*Maintaining relationship or sexual boundaries against coercion
*Self-care for yourself and your intimate relationship
*Dealing with emotional conflict in relating and sex
*Developing or re-discovering your physical / sexual intimacy
*Developing or re-discovering emotional intimacy
*Improving/developing communication skills
*Establishing common relationship goals – what is your relationship about?
*Overcoming shyness, anxiousness, fear, insecurity in sexual and intimate emotional situations
*Negotiating change within your relationship
*Learning to relate and understand and support each other’s emotional and sexual needs
*Learning how to develop sexual skills together
*Negotiating changes in relationship structure (e.g. changing from monogamy to non-monogamy, one or more partners exploring a same-gender interest outside of the opposite-gender couple)
*Maintaining sexual pleasure and emotional intimacy as you get older
*Evolving away from emotional and behavioural rigidity in your relating and sexuality
*Getting unstuck from relationship worries, fears, and insecurities
*Developing your communication and partnering skills further in your sexual relating (working with either an individual, couple or small group)
And, of course, I am also always pleased to answer difficult, embarrassing questions about sexuality and relating, concerning absolutely any kind of consensual sexual context. Nothing shocks me, embarrasses me, or causes me to judge you in any way whatsoever.
regarding relationship and sexuality self-development coaching?
My approach with my clients is always ethical, professional, warm, empathic, caring, highly supportive and motivational, and completely confidential. And I have a sense of humour! I consider that the quality of our professional relationship together is the most important determinant of success. I always approach my relationship coaching from a strong interest in helping you to develop effective control of your sexuality and relating. This process of taking control is the key to avoiding the very damaging results of letting relationship frustration and dissatisfaction, or sexuality doubts and anxieties dominate and -- over time -- erode away your personal, relationship and sexual life. Please follow this link to find out about my background and qualifications.
For a more detailed look at my background, philosophy, vocational / professional qualifications, etc., please browse through my website, reading what I have written about my areas of coaching, and the services I offer. Should you have any questions it will be my great pleasure to chat informally with you and answer them, either by phone, by email, or in person. Please contact me using the email form, or other contact information shown in the contact area to the right.