As a coach, I’m here to work patiently, calmly, supportively and motivationally with you, helping you to manage and reduce your stress and anxiety. By doing so, you will improve your mental and physical wellbeing, and, through our coaching work together, you will be on course to achieving your desired goals and self-fulfilment in your personal life, career, education, and sexual/intimate relationships. My coaching focus is on working with stressed, anxious and worried individuals, couples or small groups, helping you to identify, and learn to manage and overcome the specific contexts and situations which actually create your stressful anxieties and fears. This includes stress arising from anxious thoughts, fear, worries, low self-esteem, low resilience, insecurity, self-doubt, overload, burnout, frustration and/or dissatisfaction, climate change and health/virus pandemics.
I will happily work with you on managing stressful and anxious areas in any part of your personal life, work, career, education, or sexual relationship(s). And, this also includes a specialisation in stress arising from climate change and viral pandemic infection experiences or concerns. Throughout all of our work together, my aim is also to facilitate greater overall mind and body self-care and increase your self-fulfilment in life.
I come to my evidence-based coaching with a deep personal and professional commitment, and psychological understanding, regarding mind-body wellbeing; particularly with regard to stress, its causes, its potentially devastating mental and bodily effects, and its management. But, you may ask, why be concerned about stress and anxiety? Surely, these are just what everyone suffers? Well, yes, to varying degrees, unfortunately, all of us do experience stress and some degree of anxiety. Nevertheless, they are incomparably dangerous.
Anxiety, and many other emotions, feelings and situations create stress. Stress may damage or destroy your mental health, have major negative effects on your gene expression, seriously impact your physical health, and totally devastate your personal life. It can limit or even destroy your ability to self-achieve goals and ambitions in your career/profession or educational endeavours.
Stress can also, and frequently does, seriously compromise your sexual relating and overall sexuality, your psychological and physical ability to desire sex, to perform sexually (sexual dysfunction), or remain sexually active at all. And, it can also result in inability to conceive children, if that should be important in your life. The mental health effects of severe stress can also destroy your ability to socialise, kill off your friendships and relationships, and restrict your abilities to concentrate, communicate, remember or relax. And this is only the very tip of the stress (and anxiety) iceberg.
With the stark emergence of global climate change, health/virus pandemics, a new era of potential for war and military conflict here in Europe, and many inter-related social and economic crises, we've also now entered a permanent era of potentially deeper psychological stress, anxiety, conflict and insecurity. This creates even stronger potential for deep personal psychological fatigue and serious damage to our individual wellbeing. Such negative effects result from sudden environmental change, living under social disorder or social breakdown, threat of - or actual - war, and pandemic physical lock-down, social distancing and other feared impacts on daily life. These further include severe social and economic devastation, food shortages, social and personal conflict, threat of grave physical illness, serious risk of emotional and psychological problems (potentially lifelong), and unreliable medical provision. For most of us, that's all simply just too great of an emotional and psychological burden to have dumped on us all of a sudden, with little time to take in what its implications really might be. Fortunately, my earlier MA Counselling and Psychotherapy training, and many years experience as a coach and counsellor, combined with my BEd (Hons) climate geography, environmental geography and medical geography knowledge-base, create for me a well-informed foundation from which to provide effective help for your climate crisis and health pandemic stress and anxieties.
For more detailed information about the effects of stress and anxiety across the whole of your life, I strongly recommend that you now read my more detailed pages discussing the emotional and physical dangers of stress and anxiety and stress, anxiety, self-care and self development in sexuality and relating.
How did I learn about all of this? Well, firstly through my own life-changing experience of learning how to cope successfully with my personal stress/anxiety crisis many years ago (hint: by combining mindfulness and controlled deep breathing techniques, psychologically-derived strategies, and gentle yoga and tai chi healing movement). Secondly, I also have a solid postgraduate mental health counselling training and experiential background, providing me with a knowledge-base appropriate to client safety and understanding of stress and anxiety. My background is comprised of many decades working internationally in a nurturing helping-professional context; variously, as an educator with stressful and anxious, socially and educationally disadvantaged children and young people, and as a counsellor and coach with adult individuals and sexual relationship couples. For more details about my university professional training in education, counselling and psychotherapy, and for my life history synopsis to-date, please click here.
For more information regarding how my coaching works, please read on through this page.
on stress and anxiety management coaching
Some potential clients contact me initially for stress and anxiety management coaching with just a vague feeling that some form of self-change or self-development is desired, or crucial, to make success and achievement possible again in their stressful and anxious life. By contrast, others already know precisely what goals they wish to achieve from coaching. Some have even already started out on their journey of dealing with stressful aspects of self-development or self-change, either self-driven and highly motivated, or with prior help from other coaching, or as an offshoot of recent anxiety or stress reduction counselling/coaching. It really doesn't matter exactly where along this continuum you happen to be, I'm happy to start stress and anxiety management coaching with you.
All of my coaching focuses on helping you to understand, manage, and overcome your stress and anxiety by identifying, and working directly on, the root causes of these stressful, unhelpful and success-blocking negative emotions, feelings, thoughts and behaviours that result in very serious consequences throughout your entire life. In line with this, we will clearly identify from our early meetings together what specific stress and anxiety changes you wish, or need, to achieve. From that, we will then focus on creating a structured approach to making the achievement of your self-changes a serious practicality.
My professional focus is on helping you, firstly, to identify and understand the underlying causes, problems and contexts which create your stress-inducing anxious thoughts, fear, worries, low self-esteem, low resilience, insecurity, self-doubt, overload, burnout, frustration and/or dissatisfaction. Then, secondly, together as a team, we'll get to grips with exactly how all of this may be blocking you from achieving what you wish to achieve in your life, career, educational pursuits or relationships. Finally, from this basis of greater self-understanding, I'll guide you in moving forward, step-by-step, to achieve lower stress and anxiety, and, concurrently, move towards the self-development, positivity, focus, mindfulness and self-belief necessary for you to attain your desired self-fulfilment in life goals and ambitions. This might even be a total self-reinvention in your life. This is all achieved via an individualised self-development programme devised, and continuously evolving, jointly between us as a team effort.
Additionally, from my long experience as an integrative counsellor often heavily focused on sexual relationships counselling, I also specialise in guiding, motivating and supporting your self-development, emotional wellbeing and self-care across all areas of sexual relating where there are stress and anxiety-reducing self-changes or improvements you wish, or need, to make. This might involve self-development in communication; learning how to negotiate sexual consent and psychological/emotional and physical boundaries; or, replacing relationship negativity with positivity. It could also include stressful or anxious areas of your relating or sexuality that you wish to learn more about, or areas that you wish or need to improve on, or develop, somewhat differently.
and how do I work with you?
My chosen form of coaching is generally an integration of person-centred/humanistic approaches with other helpful strategies, often including some cognitive behavioural approaches. This combination provides a focus on you as a “whole person”, and on your overall self-care and wellbeing throughout. The moving forward towards your goal component is achieved by us together as a team, often working directly on your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. This is often supplemented by using time-proven approaches such as mindfulness training, deep controlled breathing exercises, and some very effective cognitive behavioural coaching strategies. However, this is only part of my repertoire, I do, of course, have many other approaches available as well, particularly in sexual relationships coaching.
You can read listings below of all the stressful and potentially anxious areas, contexts, or situations that my coaching can cover with you, from my base serving the Inverness, Great Glen, Strathspey, Moray Firth and Highland(s) regions.
Stress and Anxiety Management Coaching
areas and approaches comprise:
*Identifying stress and anxiety reduction goals in any area of your life, relationships, etc., with clarity.
*Making stress and anxiety reduction goal achievement/self-development accessible to you.
*Understanding and managing virus-related and other health epidemic/pandemic related stress and anxiety, including coping with social distancing/isolation and its after-effects.
*Climate Change associated stress and anxiety.
*Learning how to feel in control of your life and events.
*Identifying toxic elements in your life, and then devising strategies to minimise their effect on you, or even removing them if possible.
*Reassessing your priorities in life to relieve stress, anxious thinking, and fear.
*Improving your communication skills.
*Assertion training and learning to take, or regain, control over potentially stressful and anxious thinking and fear-generating situations in your life.
*Stress, anxious thoughts and fear management.
*Strategies to cope with stress, anxious thoughts, and overwhelming fear.
*Understanding and managing low self-esteem.
*Positive thinking as a way forward to wellbeing, self-development and goal achievement.
*Mindfulness training as a way to create inner focus and calm.
*Understanding and managing insecurity.
*Review of your decision-making and life-choices skills in life, at work, in relationships, etc.
*Migration/international relocation: Adapting to life, work or study in a new country.
*Cognitive behavioural coaching approaches.
If you wish to consider stress and anxiety management and self-development coaching for your sexual relationship(s) or personal sexuality, then please see my Stress, anxiety, self-care and self development in sexuality and relating section.
Who do I work with?
Since 2000, my psychologically-informed practice has always been very international, cosmopolitan, and widely welcoming to fellow humans from all socio-economic backgrounds. I have worked face-to-face with adult individuals and couples of all ages, from dozens of countries, and by phone and internet with persons from as far away as Vietnam.
Whatever areas of your life and self-care we may be working on together, whether face-to-face within my Inverness based office, or by some other medium, please be reassured that as a psychologically-informed professional I'm very comfortable working with adults from all sexual lifestyles, sexualities and orientations. This includes traditional monogamous, LGBT, ethically non-monogamous/polyamorous, polysexual, demisexual, whatever. In fact, as a sexuality specialist, I am completely friendly and welcoming to, supportive of, and knowledgeable about all gender combinations, sexualities and lifestyles involving adult, mutually consensual, informed sexuality and relating. All are very natural and normal examples of the wide range of human life experience.
Please don’t hesitate to contact me
Initially it's best to contact me via my website email or by phone, we can then arrange a mutually convenient return phone call (with no expense or fee to yourself). In this way we can talk for as long as it takes about your current needs and requirements, informally, confidentially, and with no obligation whatsoever.