Coaching & Counselling for stressful and anxious issues and problems in your personal life, career, sexuality and relationships (traditional or alternative). I also specialise in anxiety and stress caused or worsened by climate change or virus pandemics. My focus is on helping with your fears, worries, low self-esteem, low resilience, self-doubt and insecurities.
Coach and Counsellor
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I enjoy coaching and counselling face-to-face wherever possible. However, I am also
pleased to provide phone, internet-based, or email sessions, wherever feasible
Arriving in the Black Isle, Inverness and Great Glen areas sometime during 2021
As an experienced integrative psychological coach and counsellor I will work with you to help you manage, or resolve, the root causes of your stress, anxieties and stressful problems, and concurrently, help you with your self-development, self-care and wellbeing. My focus is on helping you to identify and manage or resolve your underlying worries, fears, frustrations, problems, low self-esteem, low resilience, self-doubt, insecurity, work / career / educational concerns, and personal, relationship and sexuality or asexuality issues, which are causing you stress and anxiety. This includes my special interest in stress and anxiety issues stemming from climate change emergencies and health / virus pandemics.
I coach and counsel adult individuals, couples or small groups, working from my warm, dedicated, discreet and private home-based consulting room, with complete confidentiality, free on-site private parking and toilet facilities. I specialise in integrative counselling and coaching to help you manage, or resolve, a broad range of stressful and anxiety-creating issues, problems and difficulties in all aspects of your personal life, work, sexuality and relationships. I also offer specialist stress and anxiety management coaching and relationship coaching. I can also coach and counsel with you regularly and effectively by internet or phone if you're stranded in local weather-bound areas, or resident in distant regions of the UK, continental Europe or Asia.
Whatever your problems, concerns, issues, self-care needs or self-development goals may be, my aim is always, first of all, to create for you a calm, safe mental and physical space within which I can work with you supportively, compassionately, motivationally, and ethically. You will find me warm, empathic, an attentive listener, understanding, non-judgmental, genuine in my desire to help you, and having a deep regard at all times for your overall wellbeing, self-development and self-fulfilment.
Prior to becoming an integrative coach and counsellor, between 1975-1999 I was a US-UK Fulbright Award-winning educator in English and Californian secondary and special education, working with stressful, anxious children and young people mostly experiencing significant levels of socio-economic deprivation and educational disadvantage. Through my personal experiences as a child and young adult, and through my extensive helping-professional background since 1975 as an educator, coach and counsellor, I have a deep understanding of the causes, effects, and effective management of stressful and anxious issues and problems in all areas of human life.
Coaching and counselling since 2000, I am a very experienced psychologically-informed stress management coach, relationship coach and integrative counsellor, based very conveniently for most of the Black Isle, Inverness and Great Glen areas. My coaching and counselling utilise well-proven humanistic approaches, often integrated with highly effective cognitive behavioural strategies, so that I can customise my work with you for the most effective outcome to suit your very individualistic requirements and circumstances.
At this point, to find out more about what I can offer you as a counsellor, and about my specific counselling services, then please continue reading below. Alternatively, if your interest is in coaching then please follow this link for Stress and anxiety management and self-care coaching, or this one for Stress, anxiety, self-care and self-development in sexuality and relating.
As a coaching and counselling professional I am experienced and happy to provide integrative counselling in each of, or any combination of, the following areas (with coaching included where helpful):
in the following areas
*Stress, anxious thoughts and fear management: Including strategies to cope with your stress, anxious thoughts, and fears, in any areas of your life.
*Anxiety: Understanding and managing your anxiety.
*Virus pandemics: Coping with the presence, and the after-effects, of viral and other health epidemic / pandemic related stress, anxiety, and fears.
*Coping with viral pandemic social distancing / isolation and its emotional, psychological and behavioural after-effects.
*Climate Change associated stress, anxiety, and fears.
*Low Self-Esteem: Understanding and managing your low self-esteem problem.
*Insecurity: Understanding and managing insecurity in your daily life.
*Anger Management: focused on assertion training.
*Living in another culture or country: Migration / international relocation and adapting to life, relationships, sexuality, work or study in a new country.
*Mindfulness training (covering a wide range of possibilities) and controlled deep breathing techniques as a way to create inner focus and calm instead of stress and anxiety.
in the following areas
*Viral and other health epidemic / pandemic related stress effects on your sex and relationships, including coping with social distancing / isolation and its after-effects.
*Understanding and self-validating your sexuality and relationship needs, as an individual or as a couple.
*Managing stress between sexual or asexual relationship partners.
*Negotiating your relationship boundaries or sexual boundaries.
*Maintaining relationship or sexual boundaries against coercion.
*Surviving sexual abuse that happened in your childhood, or in your adult life.
*Counselling for personal self-care in sex and sexual situations.
*Dealing with emotional conflict in relating and sex.
*Developing or re-discovering your physical / sexual intimacy.
*Developing or re-discovering emotional intimacy in sex and relating.
*Improving / developing communication skills.
*Establishing common relationship goals – what is your relationship about?
*Overcoming shyness, anxiety, fear and insecurity in sexual and intimate emotional situations.
*Negotiating change within your relationship(s).
*Learning to relate, and to understand each other’s emotional and sexual needs.
*Learning how to develop sexual skills together.
*Negotiating changes in relationship structure (e.g. changing from monogamy to monogam-ish or some other form of non-monogamy; or, exploring a same-gender interest outside of the opposite-gender couple, etc).
*Maintaining sexual pleasure and emotional intimacy as you get older.
*Evolving away from emotional and behavioural rigidity in your relating and sexuality.
*All issues, problems or concerns within non-traditional and alternative sexuality, including all forms of non-monogamous relating, demisexuality, pansexuality and asexuality.
*Getting unstuck from relationship worries, fears, and insecurities.
*Developing your communication and partnering skills further in your sexual relating.
And, of course, I am also always pleased to answer difficult, embarrassing questions about sexuality and relating, concerning absolutely any kind of mutually-informed consensual sexual context. Please believe me, nothing shocks me, embarrasses me, or causes me to judge you in any way whatsoever (I recommend you also take a look at my Stress, anxiety, self-care and self-development in sexuality and relating page).
As a coach and counsellor, I’m here to work patiently, calmly, supportively and motivationally with you, helping you to explore, understand, and manage or resolve your life problems. Concurrently I will also be working with you (using my stress and anxiety management expertise) to help you reduce the stress and anxiety that these problems, issues or concerns have created for you, thereby helping you further improve your mental and physical wellbeing.
As you might expect, as a coach and counsellor I have completed appropriate master’s degree training in counselling and psychotherapy. For more details about my university professional training relevant to my coaching and counselling, please click here; and for my life history synopsis to-date, see About Keith.
Who do I work with?
Since 2000, my integrative coaching and counselling practice has always been very international, cosmopolitan, and widely welcoming to fellow humans from all socio-economic, ethnic, linguistic and national backgrounds. I have worked face-to-face with adult individuals and couples of all ages, from dozens of countries, and by phone and internet with persons from as far away as Vietnam.
Whatever areas of your life and self-care we may be focused on together, whether face-to-face within my Inverness based office, or by some other medium, please be reassured that as a coach and counsellor I'm very comfortable working with adults from all sexual lifestyles, sexualities and orientations. This includes traditional monogamous, LGBT, ethically non-monogamous / polyamorous, polysexual, demisexual or asexual, whatever. In fact, as a coach, counsellor, and private individual, I am completely friendly and welcoming to, supportive of, and knowledgeable about all gender combinations, sexualities and lifestyles involving adult, mutually consensual, informed sexuality and relating. All are very natural and normal examples of the wide range of human life experience.
Please don’t hesitate to contact me: If you would like to chat with me about any aspect of my work, your personal coaching and counselling needs, or anything else related to my professional work, then please contact me. Details for contact by email or phone are displayed on each website page. I’ll be very pleased to respond promptly to your enquiry.