Hello, I'm Keith, welcome to my stress management coaching and mind-body wellness website. I have a combined background as a former MA-qualified UK-based integrative counsellor, and as a former US-UK Fulbright Award-winning educator, and my coaching is all about helping you to manage stress across all aspects of your life, including, where required, in sexual relating contexts. If you’re here to find out about my calming, gentle Strala Yoga-based stress management and mind-body wellness classes, then please feel free to go directly to Strala Yoga from here, otherwise please continue on this page to read about my coaching.
across the whole breadth of your life
Are you stressful, worried and anxious? If so, it doesn't have to be like that, it really doesn’t. As the medical and counselling professions, and those of us in psychologically-based coaching, and mind-body wellness professions, now readily acknowledge, stress is insidious. Stress and worrying, about any areas of your life, including sex and relating, can destroy your emotional and physical wellness, your relationship(s), your sexual function, your career and -- in time -- potentially your whole life. Stress is a killer. Stress rarely, if ever, just simply disappears out of your life, so dealing with stress is a proactive choice on your part to make the consistent effort that it takes to manage it. Stress can, in fact, be sensibly managed by various kinds of psychologically-based coaching and / or by mind-body connection exercise, such as yoga and tai chi.
I’m an experienced coach, specialising in stress management across all areas of life, including in sexuality and relationships. As an addition to my psychologically-based stress management coaching I will shortly also offer Strala Yoga which, being a fusion of yoga and tai chi, can also help greatly in creating effective stress management, if practiced consistently. It would be my great pleasure to work with you and help you with stress in any aspect(s) of your life.
As you will read below, I have several decades of combined UK and US professional experience working with stressed people in counselling, coaching and educational contexts. I hold a vocational / professional MA Counselling and Psychotherapy degree, which – combined with my former integrative counselling and coaching roles -- deeply informs and supports my professional knowledge and coaching work with stress throughout life, including in areas of sexual relating. My postgraduate school of psychology training focused predominantly on integrative humanistic and cognitive behavioural approaches to emotional and behavioural problems, including for stress and anxieties.
Integrated with this, of course, is my ever-continuing mind-body wellness personal learning, plus my daily practice of stress-reducing mind-body exercise, most particularly as a soon-to-be qualified Strala Yoga Guide. And, I’ve also been there personally! By which, I mean that -- in terms of personal experience -- there was also a very dark and frightening ten year period in my life where I had to deal with my own deeply entrenched, suddenly arising, stress crisis. This was, over time, put to rest by my self-application of the same coaching and mind-body wellness skill-sets and strategies that I gladly share with my clients. As you can see, I'm thoroughly grounded when it comes to understanding and managing stress.
As a coach I will guide you in formulating, and then achieving, your stress management goals, quite literally in any area(s) of your life. This includes in your work / career, health, family, leaving home, friendships, education, stress from being at university, stresses of international relocation (voluntary or forced), social life and social media contexts, and also in all areas of your sexuality and relating (whether traditional or non-traditional). I will also work with you on managing any of your associated insecurities, low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence, as well as developing with you any desired life-skills.
to achieve goals of stress management in stressful
areas of sexual relating
If your stress and anxieties revolve around sexuality or relationship areas that you wish to make progress on, or worries that you wish to resolve, then, because of my background as a former integrative sexuality and relationship counsellor / coach (please see below) I can coach you directly on these as an individual, couple or other combination. In other words, tackling the problem directly at its root as the means of alleviating or removing the source of your stress. This can involve coaching you in various areas, such as how to negotiate and maintain sexual and relationship boundaries, development of greater intimacy, increasing relationship partnering skills, and improved interpersonal communication, and more besides. I'm very comfortable working within traditional monogamous sexual relating contexts, but I also specialise in non-monogamous / polyamorous and alternative sexual contexts. I am friendly to, welcoming and knowledgeable with, and about, all gender combinations, sexualities and lifestyles involving adult, mutually consensual, informed sexuality and relating.
You can read in greater detail about what I offer, and how we can work together in coaching, by clicking here.
and sharing with others
In my coaching, and in my use of Strala, I keep myself well updated on research coming from practitioners and researchers in general psychology, neuropsychology, sexuality and relationship studies, positive psychology, exercise and health sciences, and areas of the social sciences in general. And, in the spirit of sharing, I have also published articles and research myself internationally, including in The Guardian Weekly and Sexual and Relationship Therapy. I’ve also had my historical research on legal and social constraints on sexual expression adopted as reference material by the Smithsonian Libraries in the USA, and the Osgoode Hall Law School Library in Canada (Please see my “About” page).
of working with stress in others
I have a long history working as a helping-professional with stress, in many contexts. Between 1975-1999 my in-depth professional work was in UK and US education as a former US-UK Fulbright Award-winning secondary and special education teacher. This was working mostly with socially disadvantaged, stressful and insecure children and young people experiencing significant emotional, social and educational problems. Later, between 2000-2013, after re-training in integrative counselling and psychotherapy, I was in UK private practice as an integrative counsellor and coach. Within this latter I specialised as a relationship and sexuality counsellor and coach (for traditional as well as LGBT, alternative and non-monogamous lifestyles), and as a counsellor and coach focusing on stress management. In 2013 I closed down my counselling practice completely to focus entirely on coaching stress management throughout the entirety of life, including sexuality and relationships. More recently I've also embraced Strala Yoga as a fun mind-body wellness and stress-reducing element to integrate as an important adjunct into my coaching.
As you can see, my journey to coaching has evolved out of a serious and varied international helping-professional background, which contributes greatly to my present skills, knowledge and experiential understanding. My approach with my clients is always ethical, calming, warm, empathic, caring, highly supportive and motivational, and completely confidential. And I have a (pleasant) sense of humour! Whether coaching you, or guiding you in Strala Yoga, I consider that the quality of our professional relationship together is always the most important determinant of success. I always approach my stress management coaching, and guiding Strala Yoga mind-body wellness sessions, from a strong interest in helping you to develop more effective control of enjoying your life journey.
And, on the fun and mind-body exercise / wellness side of things, I’m passionate about Strala Yoga! As a soon-to-be Strala Yoga Guide, in addition to my ongoing training with Strala founder Tara Stiles and co-founder Michael Taylor, since 2011 I've completed an average of at least 30 minutes of yoga per day (yes, really), mostly Strala. That's currently well over 2,000 hours of personal practice. Consistency of practice is where the benefits of mind-body exercise really lie, even if it's only 10 minutes per day.
and the dangers of stress, and also about my background
To read in more detail about my stress management coaching, please follow this link. If you'd like to find out more about the dangers of stress, then this link will take you to my section focusing on stress and its effects on mind and body. Finally, to find out more about me, my general background, and professional qualifications, please click here.