Evidence-based Coaching for your Stress Management, Self-Care and Wellbeing
impact on your career and educational self-achievement,
and personal and sexual wellbeing.
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warm welcome to you.
As a psychologically-informed coach specialising in stress management and self-care I would love to help you understand, manage and release your mental and bodily stress. Through this process our aim is to facilitate greater overall mind and body self-care and increase your self-achievement in your life.
I come to my coaching with a deep personal and professional commitment, and psychological understanding, regarding mind-body wellbeing; particularly with regard to stress, its causes, its potentially devastating mental and bodily effects, and its management. But, you may ask, why be concerned about stress? Surely, stress is just what everyone suffers? Well, yes, to varying degrees, unfortunately, all of us do experience stress. Nevertheless, stress is incomparably dangerous. Stress may damage or destroy your mental health, have major negative effects on your gene expression, seriously impact your physical health, and totally devastate your life. It can limit or even destroy your ability to self-achieve goals and ambitions in your career / profession or educational endeavours. It can play total havoc with your personal and sexual life. Stress can also, and frequently does, seriously compromise your psychological and physical ability to desire sex, to perform sexually (sexual dysfunction) or remain sexually active at all. And, it can also result in inability to conceive children, if that should be important in your life. It can also destroy your ability to socialise, kill off your friendships and relationships, and restrict your abilities to concentrate, communicate, remember or relax. And this is only the very tip of the stress iceberg. For more information please read my more detailed articles on this website, discussing The emotional and physical dangers of stress and The stress reduction and wellbeing benefits of yoga and tai chi.
How do I know all this? Well, in addition to my own life-changing experience of learning how to cope successfully with my personal stress crisis many years ago (hint: by combining flow yoga, mind-body derived techniques, and psychologically-derived strategies), I also have a solid professional background and knowledge-base applicable to understanding stress. My background is comprised of many decades working in a nurturing helping-professional context, variously, with stressful and anxious children, young people, adult individuals, and sexual relationship couples. In addition to my adult coaching since 2000, this has also been as a former Fulbright Award-winning international educator in secondary and special needs education, and, more recently, from my MA Counselling and Psychotherapy training, followed by thirteen years of private practice as an integrative counsellor / therapist for adult individuals and couples. For more details about my university professional training and career experience please click here, and for my life history synopsis to-date, see About Keith.
For more information regarding how my coaching works, please read on through this homepage. And, for in-depth information regarding stress management coaching generally, the "why and how" about my psychologically informed coaching, and how my coaching is very different from counselling and psychotherapy (which, of course, I no longer offer), please go directly to What is stress management coaching?
As a Stress Management Coach
what is the scope of my coaching?
My specialisation is in coaching you when you feel blocked from attaining your desired goals, self-achievement, self-fulfilment, happiness or wellbeing because of your stress levels, and your underlying stress-inducing anxious thoughts, fear, worries, low self-esteem, low resilience, insecurity, self-doubt, overload, burnout, frustration and / or dissatisfaction. This may be in any areas of your career or professional life, your educational studies, college or university life, or in your personal life and sexual relationships.
My coaching focuses on helping you to understand, manage, and overcome your stress by identifying, and working directly on, the root causes of these stressful, unhelpful and success-blocking negative emotions, feelings, thoughts and behaviours that result in very serious consequences throughout your entire life.
Once you've learned how to gain effective control over these root causes, we then work together on developing a positive outcome for you in whatever areas of your life you wish to move forward in.
One major aspect of using stress management coaching to reduce the long-term serious stress created by these emotional states, feelings, and associated behaviours, is that the lowering of your stress response improves your mental ease and comfort. From this, because of the mind-body effect, your physical health outlook improves tremendously, thereby further boosting your emotional wellbeing through this mind-body inter-connective loop.
All of this results in an increased ability in learning, analytical skills, concentration, perception, memory, sociability / ability to relate to others, ability to focus more clearly on future-planning, and good decision-making. This operates, of course, at all levels and in all areas of your life. And, following stress management coaching, you may also find that your sexual desire and arousal (libido), and reproductive system, return to their previous levels of functionality if stress in your life has interfered with these functions.
As a stress management coach, life coach, relationships coach, and cognitive behavioural coach since 2000, and former integrative counsellor focused on stressful life issues and sexual relationship counselling between 2000 and 2013, I have almost thirty years of combined experience in the successful use of evidence-based psychologically-derived approaches.
My stress management coaching methods often include cognitive behavioural coaching, where helpful. However, a broader, more holistic, multi-faceted approach to stress management coaching is usually most helpful of all, wherein I combine various psychologically informed and / or mind-body healing methodologies. For example, this might include positivity training, mindfulness training, controlled deep breathing exercises, anger management, resilience training, improved communication skills, and / or many, many others. This integrative approach, which can also include cognitive behavioural strategies, is very effective in stress management coaching generally, including in stress management coaching for sexuality and sexual relationships.
Ultimately, my aim is that of working with you from where you now are, to support, motivate and mentor you in moving forward to achieve your desired goals, self-fulfilment and overall wellbeing in any areas of your life. During this process I believe that the quality, warmth and ethicality of the professional relationship between us, and my unconditional acceptance of you as a uniquely valuable human being, is the key to a successful outcome in our work together.
throughout my website, for greater detail.
on stress management coaching
Some potential clients contact me initially for stress management coaching with just a vague feeling that some form of self-change or self-development is desired, or crucial, to make success and achievement possible again in their stressful life. By contrast, others already know precisely what goals they wish to achieve from coaching. Some have even already started out on their journey of dealing with stressful aspects of self-development or self-change, either self-driven and highly motivated, or with prior help from other coaching, or as an offshoot of recent counselling or therapy. It really doesn't matter exactly where along this continuum you happen to be, I'm happy to start stress management coaching / cognitive behavioural coaching with you.
We will clearly identify from our early meetings what self-changes in your currently stressful life, and what specific self-development goals, you wish to achieve. From that, we will then focus on creating a structured approach to making the achievement of your self-changes or other goals a serious practicality. This includes in your personal, career, educational and family life, and also, of course, in your general self-care and wellbeing.
My professional focus is on helping you, firstly, to identify and understand the underlying causes, problems and contexts which create your stress-inducing anxious thoughts, fear, worries, low self-esteem, low resilience, insecurity, self-doubt, overload, burnout, frustration and / or dissatisfaction. Then, secondly, together as a team, we'll get to grips with exactly how all of this may be blocking you from achieving what you wish to achieve in your life or relationships. Finally, from this basis of greater self-understanding, I'll guide you in moving forward, step-by-step, to achieve lower stress levels and, concurrently, the self-development, positivity, focus, mindfulness and self-belief necessary for you to attain your desired self-fulfilment, goals and ambitions. This might even be a total self-reinvention in your life. This is all achieved via an individualised self-development programme, devised jointly between us as a team effort.
Additionally, as a former integrative counsellor / therapist often heavily focused on sexual relationships counselling, I also specialise in guiding, motivating and supporting your self-development, emotional wellbeing and self-care across all areas of sexual relating where there are stress-reducing self-changes or improvements you wish to make. This might involve self-development in communication, replacing relationship negativity with positivity, or areas of your relating or sexuality that you wish to learn more about, or many other areas that you wish to improve on or develop somewhat differently.
and how do I work with you?
My chosen form of coaching is generally an integration of person-centred / humanistic approaches with other helpful strategies, often including some cognitive behavioural approaches. This combination provides a focus on you as a “whole person”, and on your overall self-care and wellbeing throughout. The moving forward towards your goal component is achieved by us together as a team, often working directly on your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. This is often by using time-proven approaches from the mind-body yoga and tai chi exercise world (such as mindfulness training), plus some very effective cognitive behavioural coaching strategies. However, this is only part of my repertoire, I do, of course, have many other approaches available as well, particularly in sexual relationships coaching.
You can read listings below of all the stressful areas, contexts, or situations that my stress management and self-care coaching can cover with you, from my base serving the Inverness, Great Glen, Strathspey, Moray Firth and Highland(s) regions.
Stress Management Coaching
areas and approaches comprise:
*Identifying goals in any area of your life, relationships, etc., with clarity
*Making goal achievement / self-development accessible to you
*Learning how to feel in control of your life and events
*Identifying toxic elements in your life, and then devising strategies to minimise their effect on you, or even removing them if possible
*Reassessing your priorities in life to relieve stress, anxious thinking, and fear
*Improving your communication skills
*Assertion training and learning to take, or regain, control over potentially stressful and anxious thinking and fear-generating situations in your life
*Stress, anxious thoughts and fear management
*Strategies to cope with stress, anxious thoughts, and overwhelming fear
*Understanding and managing low self-esteem
*Positive thinking as a way forward to wellbeing, self-development and goal achievement
*Mindfulness training as a way to create inner focus and calm
*Understanding and managing insecurity
*Review of your decision-making and life-choices skills in life, at work, in relationships, etc.
*Migration / international relocation: Adapting to life, work or study in a new country
*Climate Change associated stress
*Cognitive behavioural approaches
For more details specifically on my stress-related coaching, please see Stress management for you. If you wish to consider stress management and self-care coaching for self-development in your sexual relationship or personal sexuality, then please see my relationships and sexuality section.
Who do I work with?
Since 2000, my coaching practice has always been very international, cosmopolitan, and widely welcoming to fellow humans from all socio-economic backgrounds. I have worked face-to-face with adult individuals and couples of all ages, from dozens of countries, and by phone and internet with persons from as far away as Vietnam.
Whatever areas of your life and self-care we may be working on together, whether face-to-face within my Inverness based office, or by some other medium, please be reassured that as a psychologically-based professional I'm very comfortable working with adults from all sexual lifestyles, sexualities and orientations. This includes traditional monogamous, LGBT, ethically non-monogamous / polyamorous, polysexual, demisexual or asexual, whatever. In fact, as a sexuality specialist, I am completely friendly and welcoming to, supportive of, and knowledgeable about all gender combinations, sexualities and lifestyles involving adult, mutually consensual, informed sexuality and relating. All are very natural and normal examples of the wide range of human life experience.
for stress management coaching
As an experienced coach in Inverness, I aim to keep my fees affordable, and my charges range from £50 down to £10 per session or per contact. This depends upon what work we are doing, how we are working (in person, by phone, by email), length of our session together, and whether I’m working with you as an individual, a couple, or as part of a small group. Currently, a 60 minute face-to-face one-person or couple session is £50, increasing to £60 for small groups. A 90 minute session is £70 and £80, respectively. My coaching "top-up" services by phone or email, of course, cost far less. The first in-person session is paid for at the session’s end, and all subsequent sessions are paid for seven days in advance. I accept payments please by electronic bank-to-bank transfer, cash or by cheque. Paid-in-advance sessions are not refundable, nor transferable to another date or time, unless cancelled more than 48 hours in advance.
I have always provided a significant discount for university and technical / technology students, and will always do so. Currently, a valid student photo identification card will entitle you to a 20% reduction on my coaching fees. And, as mentioned above, shorter follow-up stress management coaching sessions, or “top-up” motivational sessions by phone or email with me can also be an area where you can save money. So, coaching with me in Inverness may be far more affordable than you might think.
Please don’t hesitate to contact me: If you would like to chat with me about any aspect of my coaching, your personal coaching needs or goals, or anything else related to this, then please contact me. Details for contact by email or phone are displayed on each website page. I’ll be very pleased to respond promptly to your enquiry. To find out more about me, my general background, philosophy and professional qualifications, please click here.